Congratulations if you’ve been chosen as a maid of honour! But donning the role of the chief bridesmaid isn’t easy. For one, you have to be there for the bride throughout the wedding planning process. From joining her for mani-pedi sessions to going dress shopping with the bride, there are many things to do. But throwing a hen’s party for the bride is probably the biggest of all responsibilities.
If this is the first time you’ve been asked to be the maid of honour, here are a few answers to some of the most common questions you’re likely to ask:
1. When To Start Planning
Usually, hens nights are planned a month before the wedding. Considering this, it’s best to start planning for the hens’ party at least 4-5 months in advance, especially if you plan to travel outside the country or city. Last-minute hotel and air ticket bookings are expensive. If you’re looking for a deal, you will have to book at least 3 months in advance.
Planning ahead allows guests to organize their schedule, viz. planning time off work, making alternative arrangements for childcare, preparing outfits, saving money, etc. You also get enough time to make last-minute adjustments regarding the guest list, location, etc.
But if you’re planning a night out at a local pub or a nearby resort, planning preparations can start a month in advance.
2. Who Pays For The Hens Night
Should the bride pay for herself? How much should each bridesmaid pay? Hens party etiquette demands that the bridesmaids and other guests cover the bride’s costs. But if the hens’ party is planned abroad, guests could pay for one evening’s costs and not the entire trip. In such an instance, you can also ask the bride to pay for the air tickets.
The bridesmaids also have to pay for other expenses such as alcohol, food, activities, etc. Irrespective of the budget, make sure you don’t get carried away and go out of budget. While you want the bride to have a memorable party, it is meaningless if the bridesmaids cannot afford it. Speak to the bridesmaids about the costs involved. If they choose to decline, do not make them feel guilty. Or, you could allow them to pick and choose affordable hens night activities.
3. Whom To Invite For The Hens Night
If you have been chosen as the maid of honour, it is a given that you know the bride well enough to know whom to invite. Speak to the bride to make sure you don’t end up asking people she doesn’t want at the party. Ideally, childhood friends, work friends, sisters, sisters-in-law, etc., are invited. If the hens’ night isn’t raucous, your mom and mom-in-law can also be invited. But make sure you don’t invite people who aren’t invited to the wedding.
4. Where To Buy Hens Night Supplies
There are plenty of brick-and-mortar shops that sell hens’ night supplies. But if you’re looking for affordable hens party products, I suggest shopping for them at Pecka Products. This online store sells a wide range of hens party products, including hens night games, cutlery, photo props, sashes, confetti, and balloons.